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TSLS 0029 - ASPIRING IS LOSING.

I get a lot of "aspiring" writers coming to me to tell me all about their dreams of becoming authors and making a living from writing.

It usually sounds something like this:

I would just LOVE to be a writer! Sososososmuch!

When I tell them that there are many, many solutions to this issue, however - some that require effort over money, others that require money over effort - it's like I'm speaking another language. 

What do you mean I actually have to put some effort in to make this dream work? I'm out. 

I don't know what other people have been telling you, but you can't just have "aspiring" anything in your bio and not be putting in the work.

What you're saying is you want to be an artist, author, painter (like 90% of everyone else in the world) but aren't prepared to give it a real shot (like 90% of everyone else in the world), so please stop wasting everyone's time.

You're not doing yourself any favours. You're just highlighting the fact that not only are you one of the 90% percent, but also deluded about it.

There's just too much preening in this industry. Too much waiting for something to happen. Too much dreaming...when all you really need to get started is to take a little bit of initiative for yourself.

It's like standing on a street corner with a sign, wholly unqualified, with nothing to show for yourself in the field that you claim to be interested in...yet still expecting someone to discover you and give you a job. 

It's like demanding that someone hire you first, before you've started practicing the craft. Who wants to employ someone like that?

Aspiring is losing.

Aspiring is being offended by offers who want to help you out in exchange for your money - because even though you want it, you don't want it THAT much. 

It's giving up before you've even begun because you feel it would take too much time.

So what is there to do about this situation?

Write. Write today, write now. Because then you're not aspiring, you're writing, and that's what makes you a writer. 

You don't have to deny yourself the title of "writer" because you don't have any works out there yet, or because you're not making money from it yet. 

You'll have a lot better chance of getting someone interested in you (if that's what you want) by calling yourself a writer and actually doing the work, than calling yourself an "aspiring author" which is like trying to get something for nothing.

"Writer" is not a title someone gives you, it's a lifestyle, and you're free to live it. - Tweet this!

So start creating your body of work today - you won't regret it. 

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TSLS 0005 - How to actually become a successful author

There was a time where, if I wasn’t fighting my own insecurities, I was fighting all the insecurities of others.

In my head, I had all these questions like, am I good enough? Will I ever be good enough? Then on top of that, there were people telling me that writing wasn’t a real career, that it wasn’t something I would be able to make anything out of; that I was fighting a battle that I wouldn’t win and that I should do something else.

Having people tell me to give up writing was like telling me that I was useless, worthless, and didn’t have a place in this world. So on a cold Monday morning, I decided that it was either time to give up, on my dreams of a career and on my life, or find a solution. Enter The Authorship Program®.

The Authorship Program® is a book, it’s a course, it’s audio, video, and soon to be app, all with the same singular purpose: to spread the message that if you are a writer, all your issues are emotional, and the only person holding you back is YOU.

You’re your own worst enemy - and so if you use this program to help you become the best version of yourself mentally, emotionally and spiritually you’ll be unstoppable.

I don’t ever want anyone to ever feel the same way I did on that day, ever.

  • I felt that I’d never find the health, wealth, happiness and success I’d always dreamed of through a career in writing (but I did.)

  • I felt like I would never feel free of the mental cost of being a creative, free-spirited human being (but I am.)

  • I felt like my creative work didn’t have any value or place in the world (but it does.)

Writers deserve to feel good about the work they do. It's a destiny, not a choice - one that you deserve to feel good about, enjoy the pursuit of, and live through without insecurity.

You can’t let your insecurities prevent you from living it. It’s self-harm. It’s self-inflicted pain. And it’s a pain that won’t ever go away unless you find a way to deal with it.

You’re welcome to use mine.

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TSLS 0001 - The Intro Episode

There was a time when I wasn’t just fighting my own insecurities, I was fighting all the insecurities of others. 

I'd been staring at the screen for hours, with my hands suspended over the keyboard and absolutely nothing coming out.

In my head, there were all these questions like, am I good enough? Will I ever be good enough?

Then there were people telling me that writing wasn’t a “real” career; that it wasn’t something I would be able to make anything out of, that I was fighting an uphill battle I probably wouldn’t win and that I should probably do something else. 

Having people tell me to give it up was like telling me that I was useless, worthless, and didn’t have a place in this world. So I knew I either had to give up on the dream, or find a solution.

And now, as I worried that my hands would never produce a single word again, I knew it wasn't really the people or their stories that had shaken me. It was about the bigger problem: If I can't make it as a writer, what else do I have to give to the world?

When I thought about the life I'd have to live if I gave into my fears and gave up writing, I couldn't BREATHE.

It was unthinkable.

I had to figure out a solution or I wouldn't survive - so there was no other option. 

I didn't want to feel that way.

I wanted to wholeheartedly believe in myself again.

I wanted to be unstoppable.

I knew I could either sit there and let the fears get the best of me, or I could psych myself up, and find a way to ensure that I NEVER felt so helpless or disempowered ever again.

As I sat in front of that keyboard, flexing my fingers, willing something - anything - to come out onto the paper, I had an important revelation.

@@All writing problems are emotional.@@

Because through all of my self-doubt, even in my darkest moments...

Nothing about my ability had changed. The rate I could produce work didn't change. 

Nothing changed except the way I felt, and that changed everything.

I pulled my consciousness (kicking and screaming), through its own journey of self-transformation that freed me from fear and allowed me to finally reconnect with what I like to call my #wholewriter, write over 160+ stories, poems and plays, win national awards and feel confident and fulfilled in my work every single day.

What I produced then also became my guiding philosophy for everything I now stand for - the comprehensive, step-by-step guide to removing the mental, emotional and spiritual barriers that were preventing me from leading the life I was destined to lead. 

Your emotional state can always be changed back, for the better. You can always find your way back to wholeness.

And I can show you how.

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