Posts tagged Motivation
TSLS 0033 - What really holds you back from using your writing voice

Never start a sentence with "and" or "because". Never write prologues, or epilogues. Never start a novel with your main character waking up. Never say "never" and always avoid "always". You know, stuff like that.

These are the rules of writing you must never break otherwise you'll never become an upstanding member of the writing community and all your writing will fail. 

Just kidding.

The rules were created with good intentions, but it's time to rethink them - because your fear of doing something that might be "wrong" is what’s holding you back from finding your real writing voice.

There are no rules in writing.

At best the rules are but feeble suggestions, which didn’t hold back any of the most successful authors of all time - like Shakespeare whose works were filled with almost entirely his own lexicon of words and phrases; or writers like E.L. James, who may not have conformed to the standards of traditional writing, but still gained a raving fan base worldwide.

There are no rules in writing.

No list of rules will ever make your novel famous, or save you from critical comments. No formula will determine how people will feel about your story, or how well the world receives your characters. No one can teach you how to write. Teach yourself, through courageous expression and experimentation.

There are no rules in writing.

No one will ever be able to bring the same perspective or insight to the blank page as you. Not now, not in the future, not EVER, unless they actively copied you. Do you realise who incredible that is?

There are only 26 letters in the English alphabet, and you have the power to sculpt, rearrange, and touch people's souls with them in a way that is as unique as your fingerprint! Why stifle that with regulations?

There are no rules in writing.

There are no limitations.

Write your novel even if you're worried it might not be in fashion at the moment. It might have never been in fashion before. It might be so experimental you don't even have a name for it yet. It doesn't matter, just write.

You don't know what the next big novel will be, no one does, so there’s nothing to say it won’t be yours.

There are no rules in writing.

Stop colouring within the lines, stop worrying about what other people will think of you. You already have everything you need to create the work you want to bring into this world.

Don’t allow the “rules” to hold you back, because there are none.

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TSLS 0032 - The world needs you to be yourself (and by that I mean, to not hold back.)

A lot of people will tell you throughout your life to "be yourself", which is cliche.

We are being ourselves at all times, aren't we? Unless we're intentionally lying or deceiving. We are all here, right now, in our bodies, in our shells - we are here, we are present, and the only thing we can be is ourselves. 

People said it to me when I was younger and all it left me thinking was, "Okay, how? What do I specifically need to do?" 

(I was a very results-oriented child.)

"Be yourself" doesn't come with any further guidance on the matter. It has no before and after, and just doesn't mean much to anyone.

So I'd like to propose a better alternative...don't hold back.

That's where your story lies.

We are always ourselves, but we can all remember a time where we've held back out of fear, am I right? "Don't hold back" because when you not holding back can be measured, noticed, expanded upon. Here's how to put this into action:

  • Don't do anything that you don't like, just because you think it'll impress.

  • Don't be ashamed of the things you love.

  • Don't be afraid to say what you really feel, and believe that you truly believe.

  • Forget about wanting people to agree with you.

  • Forget that you might be writing in a way that the experts might not agree with.

There is something powerful in not holding back, for every single one of us.

We all have this sense of knowing when someone isn't being themselves, whether we're aware of it or not. There will be a lack of true connection - a cavern of unease between us and the people overflowing with insecurities, or the person trying to deceive us by acting like something they're not. Don't be that person.

You wouldn't believe how much better it feels, too. The moment you're ready and willing to say to the world, "I am who I am"? That's the moment that things will radically change for you. The moment your brand emerges. The moment your version of success truly becomes possible for you.

The people you meet, the places you go and the opportunities that arise will become more relevant than ever, and will take you closer to your ultimate goals than a lifetime of imitation or dishonesty ever could.

Don't hold back.

The Universe will respond.

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TSLS 0029 - #AskStephanie: How can I get through my half finished writing project?

There's nothing more tempting than giving up a project half-way through...

You don't have to tell me. I have about a million unfinished works that may never see the light of day, ever. I have the ones I'm uncaring about getting finished, but then I have the big ones that I feel gut-wrenchingly guilty about because of how much I believe they would benefit and entertain the world.

I'm guessing the project you're talking about now is one of those projects. Unfortunately, no matter what project it is, it takes the same amount of work to complete - but here's what you need to remember when you've been in a project for so long the magic has faded (and how to get it back).

You’re not in the honeymoon period anymore, and that's okay. 

It wasn't always that way, but things change. Sooner or later you have to accept the new circumstances so you can adapt, and start making changes.

The grass isn't greener on the other side; the grass is greener where you water it. 

I don't know who first said that quote, but it's stuck with me since I first heard it. Even if you feel you're struggling, it doesn't mean it's time to look for a new, shinier project and throw all your hard work away. Things can get better if you put the effort into making it happen.

You believed in yourself and the project once, never forget that.

It’s impossible to finish a creative work without belief in yourself, but it's possible to restore it. Just because you're not at the bright-eyed infatuation stage of your creative work doesn't mean that where you are right now isn't okay.

It doesn't mean you can't make it better.

It doesn't mean you're not exactly where you're supposed to be.

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TSLS 0027 - #AskStephanie: Why have I been comparing myself to others so much recently?

When you're comparing yourself to others, you're receiving a direct message from The Universe. So it's time for you to start listening to your emotions.

When we compare ourselves or envy others, it's actually not for the reasons we assume. It's actually not because they have better looks, more talent, or more money.

We compare ourselves to others when we feel they have something more that we believe is out of reach for us.

We're really admiring the intangibles. Their courage, their perseverance, their willingness to show up in the world. And we're wondering to ourselves whether we have what it takes to be like them, to exhibit those qualities for ourselves.

The #wholewriter within you knows that these qualities are inside you...but you're just not allowing yourself to use them. That's why seeing these qualities in others is becoming a negative experience.

Comparison is a reflection of what you are not allowing yourself to do.

I repeat:

@@Comparison is a reflection of what you are not allowing yourself to do.@@

You can become more skilled in any area of expertise if you make the conscious decision to do so. There's nothing stopping you - except, of course, the fear you might fail. Or the worry that it might be hard. Or the struggle because right now, your favourite TV show is on.

Every day, in every moment, this is how you actively discourage yourself from living your dreams.

I know you want it, but you're afraid. Which is why it's much easier to hate on others, or throw a big ol' pity party for yourself, instead of facing up to the fact that to be like this person you admire, something has to change.

The only difference between you and them is the choices they've made.

The Universe is challenging you to face up to your biggest fears.

It's challenging you start giving yourself more chances. 

It's challenging you to become the person others compare themselves to.

Are you up for the challenge?

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TSLS 0002 - To the person who still hasn't started their creative legacy yet

Hey you,

You who has always wanted to start a creative life, and just haven’t gotten around to it yet. You who is feeling time and life slip away because they haven’t done the things that would really make their soul sing. You who is thinking it’ll be too hard or you don’t have time or you’re too old, or too young.

To the person who knows a full life is lived through self-expression and leaving a legacy behind to inspire, educate or entertain future generations.

I know that little voice has been working overtime on you every day, making you feel worse than you should. I bet that at some point or other in your life you’ve told yourself that you’ve done “nothing” with your life. Or worse, telling yourself that you’re nothing.

Well, this may seem a little out there, but stick with me on this: being nothing right now isn’t such a bad thing.

Everyone has to start somewhere.

Everyone who has any modicum of success has had to walk that line of fire and fear not knowing whether they’d even make it to the other side. But they do. And they’re stronger and braver and more ready than ever for the journey.

You have nothing because you are doing nothing. And if you continue as you are you’ll always consider yourself to BE nothing... but now is not the time to feel hopeless. Your hopelessness is the only thing preventing you from putting a dent in the universe.

So what if you’ve done anything yet? So what if you’re nothing right now?

With the right guidance, you are about to be really SOMETHING.

All you need that push that I hope I’m providing for you right now, and who knows where this life and this opportunity will take you.

Since you think you’re nothing right now, nothing you do can make you anymore insignificant than you already think you are. Nothing is at risk, except that insignificance. There’s no reason not to try.

You’re already experiencing the worst it will ever get. 

You might as well do something.

You might as well try something.

I promise you - it can only get better from here.

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