TSLS 0014 - You are not "just" a writer, my friend.
All my life I’ve known exactly who I am. I’ve always been secure in my creativity.
Most of the time I’ve been content with this lot in life and haven’t wanted for anything else.
But there have been a few times where new people have come into my life and made me feel like what I was doing with my life wasn’t enough. In those times I’d go from being happy and safe in my purpose, to thinking, “Is what I do too small, too unworthy - and just not enough?”
I’d think: “Why is my purpose so lame and misunderstood?”
“Why couldn’t The Universe have blessed me with one of those skills that people instantly cheer on, love and adore in life, one that doesn’t take weeks of gruelling, thankless work to be impressive?”
Here’s the funny thing, though. Do you know what I would do to get myself out of those funks?
Because that’s my thing.
That’s my most comfortable, natural way of connecting with the world and inspiring others, whether I particularly love it or not.
Writing is a specially engineered brand of lunacy, but it’s also a destiny, and that’s why we keep going. It’s a compulsion, and I personally had to stop pretending I had any say in the matter.
This post is for anyone in fact whose work may not always produce benefits that others cannot measure, like education, entertainment or inspiration. Anyone who has felt that pit of despair as I used to have as well where you wished things were different.
It’s to all the people who aren’t Mina Schwartz: travelling the world being flown over for speaking gigs and who don’t have the picture perfect Instagram life yet.
I want to tell you why that’s perfectly okay, and why it doesn’t take a single thing away from who you are or what you give to the world.
1. To the right person, you have the exact right gift.
It’s not for everyone, and not everyone will understand, but the exact right people will, and they will love what I offer with all their heart. Above all else.
Are you an author in need of inspiration? Right here, right here. If you’re not, then be on your way - because I don’t need you and you don’t need me. And that’s fine. But that also means that your opinions or thoughts on my business really don’t matter.
2. You are more important to the world than you think.
Education, inspiration and entertainment are not always things that can measured. There’s no global standard or level you have to hit to prove you’ve adequately impacted someone’s life. It’s often an invisible achievement unless a person wants to tell you directly but there’s no denying that we desperately need these things like we need air or water.
They keep the world interesting to a consumer of your works. They teach a different perspective. They let an observer live in someone else’s shoes for a while at a time where maybe, they desperately want to escape their own. It gives them room to breathe again. Who can put a price or a label on that? Writers fulfil those basic human, spiritual needs - needs that will always be there, needs that will never go out of fashion.
3. No matter how loudly someone brags about their life’s purpose, they wish for more bells and whistles secretly sometimes, too.
It’s human nature to be curious and envious of what other people have, because in our lifetime we all know we won’t be able to do IT ALL.
For every decision we make, we are leaving three or four behind; so take no notice of the person who seems to be all-confident and all-powerful in their confidence, acting like they know for sure they’ve made the right decision. They go home and envy others just the same. It’s not just you feeling this way, it’s all of us.
Don’t worry if their purpose / career / achievements seems bigger or better than yours. You don’t know what they’ve done to get there. You don’t know what it is costing them to maintain their status. You don’t know if you would like the situations they had to survive to lead the lifestyle they lead now.
Your purpose is yours because you are just the person to absolutely rock it. Your skills, interests, passions, were all created for this reason, and this reason alone.
So please don’t feel bad about this purpose, or your gift. Let the wrong people laugh and wonder how you’ll ever make a living or a life doing what you do.
Ignore them and just give what the world gave you to give.
“Writing is a specially engineered brand of lunacy, but it’s also a destiny, and that’s why we keep going.” - Stephanie Lennox, https://www.stephanielennox.com/blog/you-are-not-just-a-writer-my-friend
Over to you:
Have you ever felt like your talent wasn’t good enough? Let me know in the comments below!